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Tinder strongly advises that you let a friend know where you plan to meet up and at what time. You should then contact them with updates so you can feel safe. If you’re unsure you can ask a friend to be in the general vicinity during the date, or ping them regular updates throughout your date. The Tinder Verification Code scam is one of the worst scams that you can fall prey to. It is possibly the most dangerous scam that anyone could easily to fall prey to, simply because of how believable it is, plus its potential to cause the biggest privacy and financial damage. How does Tinder verification text scam work?

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Internet dating is here, and it's not going anywhere. People do everything else online, so it makes sense to start new relationships there, too. In fact, there are a lot of benefits to online dating. It's a bit easier to sift through the rejects and find the diamond.

Tinder is available only through mobile app. Let's start at the very beginning: unlike many of the. 10% of sex offenders use dating apps and sites to meet people; 42% of Tinder users aren’t even single; Reports of rape linked to dating apps and sites have risen by 450% in five years; Instant background checks are a quick and easy way to verify someone’s identity before you get face-to-face, so when date night rolls around, you can focus. As far as potential for bodily harm to users, Tinder is probably about as safe as any other internet platform intended for strangers to meet and chat and eventually have sex.

But just like old-school dating, Internet dating is scary. It's all compounded by the fact that it's hard to believe most of what you see on someone's profile. Basically, unless you've known him or her for years, you have no idea what you're getting into.

Thus, running a short background check on your date is not only not creepy, but it also keeps you safe. Background checks are a good thing for personal safety. They also prevent you from having a two-year online relationship with your best friend's baby daddy, all while you're under the impression that he's a semi-famous recording artist. You know, like on MTV's 'Catfish.'

Here's how to perform a background check on your date without becoming a grade-A stalker yourself:

1. Verify your date's identity.

Lying about yourself (or about other people) online is really easy. It's not even about the kind of music you like, or whether or not you're actually vegan. If your primary interaction is through Tinder, it's pretty easy to set up a fake email, change your name and create a whole new identify for yourself in about five minutes.

A background check helps you know that the person you're talking to is who he or she says he or she is. It will also bring up any huge red flags, such as a sex offender registration or an undisclosed marriage.

Sure, it is romantic to fall in love on a whim. But, it's more romantic to know you're not about to become part of the worst Tinder horror stories of all time.

2. Match your date's social media.

Social media is a secondary background check, primarily because it is still the Internet, and people are still lying. But if you've done a background check already, or you're just not ready to go there yet, don't be afraid to Google him or her.

Look through his or her Facebook, Instagram or Twitter feeds. Better yet, check out the search hit with his or her LinkedIn profile. Just don't click on the link, or the mission will be compromised. LinkedIn reports profile views.

Use the basic information you've found to verify that the person you're talking to is real and has friends. But don't rely on it too heavily. Not everyone is smart enough to create corresponding fake accounts to match his or her fake Tinder account, but the really crazy people are.

3. Have a back-up plan.

Don't get comfortable before you meet your date. Even if you've done a few checks and he or she has come back clean, don't put yourself in a vulnerable situation that has no way out. Set up a back-up plan to deal with a date that's gone wrong. Tell someone you trust where you're going, and have him or her check in on you. Ask him or her call you mid-way through the date, so you have an excuse to text back a progress report.

More importantly, don't ask someone who is at work or lives an hour away. Make sure this person is ready and waiting, in case you need to send out an SOS.

A great way to keep your friends in the loop is to send over your GPS location. There are a few tricks that you can use to share your exact, real-time location with a trusted circle of contacts.

It's not totally essential if you're heading to Chipotle. But in the event that you choose to go somewhere more intimate, these details can help your friends rescue you.

4. Own up to your sleuthing.

Protecting yourself from Internet creepers or real-life criminals is not creepy. However, pretending that you didn't do it is.

If someone asks you if you looked him or her up before your date, own up to it proudly. It shows you have enough common sense and self-respect to protect yourself from a potentially dangerous situation.

5. Don't violate your date's privacy.

You have to do what you have to do to protect yourself, but don't violate your date's privacy to do so. A background check is cool, and looking people up on the Internet is a standard practice. But don't get weird about it.

Don't get ahold of his or her phone number. Don't call him or her, pretending to be someone else. Don't casually stalk his or her known hangouts to watch him or her interact with people. Don't befriend his or her friends to learn more about him or her.

Security is important, but everyone is entitled to some self-respect. Plus, if your initial checks indicate that the person has a wife or kids, you don't want to go out with him or her anyway. There's just no excuse for going that far.

Whether you're on Tinder for a one-night thing, a long-term thing or something in between, you should remain vigilant. It's the right thing to do for you, and it helps keep the whole online community stay safe.

A few months ago, I swore off Tinder. But then, like all toxic, unhealthy relationships, I've been going back to my ex. We often still have a lot of the same problems we had before — disrespectful arguments, disappointing date nights out together and inappropriate discussions about sex - but, hey, I figure, if romantic prospects are all looking at their phones at the bar instead of talking to me, I might as well get in front of them somehow, right? Wrong. Though I use dating apps significantly less than I have in years past, I still have them lingering in the background of my phone, just in case someone of possible interest and character actually proves me wrong about finding love on dating apps.

In an effort to turn my bitterness about online dating into something productive, I asked eight dating experts to share their insights on where-the-eff you meet singles that doesn't require me to connect my Facebook account before getting started.

From sharing a love for something to asking your couple friends to set you up with someone who could be great, here are their recommendations of where you should go if we want to meet someone without squinting to figure out which one they are in a group picture.

1. Through Your Couple Friends

“People in relationships love to see their friends and family meet someone special and because they are now joined with another person the social circle expands. If your friend is dating a great [person], hang out with them and [their] friends sometimes. It's often the loose connections in our life (i.e. friend of a friend) that connect us to our most important relationships. So don't try to date your best friend's [significant other's] friends but see if they can introduce you to their friends. Let your inner circle be a bridge to a wider range of people.” - Esther Boykin, licensed marriage, family and relationship therapist.

2. By Keeping Your Eyes Open in Public Places

“Grocery store, train station, bus stop. These may sound outlandish, but I've worked with clients who have met at all of these places! You could even meet someone waiting in line, such as a concert or at a restaurant waiting for a table. These are easy places to fall into conversation with someone new.” -Dr. Jane Greer, New York-based relationship expert and author

3. Sports Bars

Tinder Verify The Safest Way To Meet Singles 2020

“Social sports clubs are always great because most teams are co-ed and you get to have fun while showing off whatever athletic abilities you have. As a bonus, each league has sponsoring bars that will have drink specials to encourage teams to hang out after, which is always great chance to mingle and potentially build more than just team chemistry.” -Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman

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4. At A 5K Run

'An important part of meeting someone new is feeling relaxed. A great way to make that happen is to be doing something you enjoy at the same time. Love running? These days 5k runs are all about the socializing so try a suds run where beer is handed out halfway and a party is held at the finish line, complete with DJ and more suds. There are also chocolate runs, monster dashes, or of course, ones to support your favorite charity. These suggestions also help put you in the same place as others who have similar interests as you. Having fun, helping others, and meeting new people — a great recipe for finding love.” -Megan Bearce, relationship and marriage therapist and author

5. Volunteering Or Clubs

“Finding someone with shared values is probably your best bet for a successful relationship. This can include volunteering for non-profits and community events. Shared interests yoga, environmental clubs, library book clubs, work out groups, neighborhood classes and adult audit classes.” -Dr. Kat Van Kirk, relationship and sex expert.

6. At the Dog Park

“Single people with pets often say that meeting a potential partner greatly depends on whether or not they get along with their furry best friend. It's a deal breaker to most animal lovers. Where better to meet someone who loves their furry companion just as much as you do?” -Sherri Murphy CEO and Founder of Elite Connections International.

7. At a Coffee Shop

“One of my favorite coffee shop has a big, round singles tables so singles never have to eat/drink alone. Makes it easier to strike up conversation!” Phillip Petree, author.

8. At The Gym

'The chemical changes associated with exercise might explain why finding love at the gym is so common: endorphins, dopamine and serotonin contribute to feelings of exhilaration, pleasure and a positivity, all of which make you more attractive and prime you for attracting an eligible mate.” -Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, sex expert and author.

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